All of Joseph Gudo’s hard work was summed up in one small plate of food. He’d labored for months in the field and uncountable hours in the kitchen all in service to this dish—a neat pile of mashed cowpeas (or black-eyed peas), buoyed by a bold pinch of cayenne pepper and dressed up with pops of colorful diced tomatoes and green peppers. This was everything he’d been working for, his heart and soul on a plate.
That simple meal was the dish that won Gudo and his teammates the top prize in the very first Men Can Cook competition. It also cemented what he’d been learning all year—that cooking wasn’t solely a job for women.
Sexism in and beyond the kitchen
The belief that cooking is exclusively a woman’s role is not unique to Gudo’s home, the Mwenezi district of southern Zimbabwe. Many cultures have placed the burden of all domestic skills on women for thousands of years. But when staff at Score Against Poverty (SCORE), an MCC partner in the region, began a project to teach farming skills, they saw how this pervasive belief played out beyond the kitchen.
“We realized that there were gender power imbalances which were central to the food security situation within our communities,” says Caroline Pugeni, program coordinator for SCORE.
How does gender inequality affect food security? Since 2016, SCORE’s work has included securing plots of farmable land and teaching sustainable farming techniques to give families better access to food. But the rigid gender hierarchy caused disparities to surface.
“Crops were culturally defined between female crops and the male crops,” Pugeni says. The larger cereal and grain crops were grown by men while smaller crops including legumes, garden vegetables or cowpeas were managed by women. This also led to “male” crops taking up far more space than the other crops.
“But, when it comes to how those plots were managed, the women would be participating in the weeding process, in the harvesting process, in the processing of everything for the men’s crops,” Pugeni says. “But when it comes to the legume plot, it was only the women who were supposed to manage all of that.”
Pugeni and the other staff at SCORE saw these imbalances clearly but knew that changing them, or even trying to address them, would be a challenge to generations of male-dominated culture.
Through the funding support of MCC donors, SCORE held community meetings on gender equality—open discussions for neighbours to discuss these issues together. They saw some progress, though within a limited scope. Most men who participated struggled to identify any problem with a household where the husband had total authority over his wife. That was just the way things worked, they said.
“According to our culture, there were very set roles,” Gudo says. “The wife was the one who was supposed to do the household chores and look after the children. And the husband was the one who was supposed to do those masculine jobs like farming, building and yardwork.”
But over a few sessions, SCORE’s was seeing glimpses of success.
“It began with thoughts like ‘Maybe there is need for me to assist my wife whenever my wife is not feeling well. It’s not right for me to make you cook if you’re sick,’” Pugeni says.
Seeing these ideas gain a foothold, Pugeni believed they could find success in framing the idea as a positive. Instead of correcting problematic behaviour, they could support positive change. Instead of centering the idea that it was bad to not help their wives, they focused on the idea that, yes, women have most often been the cooks of the family, but men can cook too.
Men can cook too
The rules of the competition were simple. Contestants were grouped into teams of five and would be required to grow, prepare and cook every single part of each meal they presented. The teams would be judged according to taste and presentation and the winners awarded prizes. Suddenly, some of the men were more interested in growing tomatoes and legumes despite them being “female” crops. But even that eagerness was quickly tempered by pride for some.
“It was easy for me to approach my wife for help with cooking, but what was difficult was for my wife to teach me during the day when everyone can see,” says Jawanda Clemence, a participant in the first competition. “So, I opted to learn at night. My wife would teach me when kids had gone to bed. I was afraid of being shamed by other men in the village.”
Clemence says most of the crowd that gathered to watch that first year came because the idea of men competing to cook was too bizarre to pass up seeing in person. He thought very little of the idea when he agreed to try it.
“I wanted to laugh at my friends that were really showing an eagerness to participate,” Clemence says. “In my family, no man cooks. You marry for your wife to cook for you. What SCORE was talking about was just beyond my imagination.”
And Clemence wasn’t the only one suspicious of the idea. Encouraging men to be more involved at home seemed like a good plan, but many women worried that the kitchen could just become a new place for men to wield their total authority.
Instead of a new arena for oppression, the women of Mwenezi started to see changes they wouldn’t have thought possible, says Gaudencia Pugeni, a participant in SCORE’s agriculture program (no relation to Caroline Pugeni).
“Men started to share financial matters with their wives and many husbands no longer beat their wives,” she says. “There is a love now that wasn’t there before.”
And these changes weren’t just showing up at home. Out on the fields, male farmers shared the land more equitably, included the women more in planning and began planting legumes and other previously dismissed crops themselves.
“It has given farmers an opportunity to know and address underlying issues that affect food security here,” says Caroline Pugeni. “It has improved food and nutrition security at a household level.”
Winner, winner cowpea dinner
The first competition took place in 2018 with eight men’s teams and six women’s teams comprised mostly of competitors’ wives. Men’s teams took the top three spots that year. Gudo’s team emerged victoriously, his mashed cowpeas named the supreme dish. And their prize? Aprons and a variety of pots, pans and cooking utensils to call their own. For placing third, Clemence was awarded a teapot that he now displays proudly at home.
Both Gudo and Clemence say connecting with their wives through the whole process changed their perspectives drastically. They see themselves more as equal partners and not as a master over their spouse.
Clemence changed his tune on cooking entirely. He now teaches men practicing for the competition and has developed his own signature recipe for a nutritious porridge that he shares with anyone who’s interested.
And Gudo started offering to cook, to help in the garden and to walk his daughter to school, insisting his wife take time to rest. He says he wants to show his kids what he only learned as an adult.
“It shows our kids to learn to love one another. Because there was a great gulf existing between boys and girls when the boys saw themselves to be superior as the culture says. But now, it gives all both boys and girls they know that we are all human beings. We are all the same.”
Score Against Poverty has recently published a collection of recipes featured in the Men Can Cook competition.
Jason Dueck is an MCC Canada communications generalist from Winnipeg, Manitoba.
Mennonite Central Committee is a global, nonprofit organization that strives to share God’s love and compassion for all through relief, development and peace. MCC is committed to relationships with their local partners and churches. As an Anabaptist organization, they strive to make peace a part of everything they do.