Home The great Mwenezi cook-off It was easy for me to approach my wife for help with cooking, but what was difficult was for my wife to teach me during the day when everyone can see, says Jawanda Clemence, a participant in the first competition. So I opted to learn at night. My wife would teach me when kids had gone to bed. I was afraid of being shamed by other men in the village.I wanted to laugh at my friends that were really showing an eagerness to participate, says Clemence. In my family, no man cooks. You marry for your wife to cook for you. What SCORE was talking about was just beyond my imagination.